If you’re using toys, Smith recommends water-based lube, since silicone formulas can break down silicone sex toys. “It’s not really about needing it, but about adding it as an enhancement,” she says. She also suggests using lube with any kind of insertive toy, even if you have natural lubrication and don’t think you “need” it. “When your vulva is slippery, it’s a lot easier to explore with your hands, and it also reduces friction on the clitoris, which some can find painful or unpleasant,” Smith explains. But a lesser-known fact is that it can also enhance clitoral stimulation, sex educator Erica Smith, MEd, tells SELF. If you like (or want) to incorporate penetration into your masturbation routine, lube can help a dildo or finger go in much more easily, naturally. If you need a vulva refresher (or never learned about it), she notes, “I often suggest checking out this simple ‘ Vagina Anatomy 101’ guide from period-product brand Lunette to my clients.” You may learn, for example, that the labia minora-the inner vaginal lips-also house pleasure-producing nerve endings, so touching that area might feel fantastic as a build-up (or alternative) to more-intense clitoral stimulation.
“Understanding what contributes to pleasure makes it easier to seek it out for ourselves,” Rashid-Dawdy says.
Many of us received inadequate sexual education growing up, so getting back to basics can help you explore your pleasure potential more fully. Get intimately familiar with your vulva, in general.Įven if you’re a seasoned masturbator, getting to know all of your parts is the foundation for a satisfying self-pleasure routine, Incia Rashid-Dawdy, LCPC, a therapist at the Expansive Group, tells SELF. If you want to experiment with direct pressure, you can try a wand vibrator, and if you’re into suction, you might prefer a toy that uses pulse technology, like the Satisfyer One Night Stand ($10) or the Satisfyer Luxury Haute Couture ($100). “When it comes to figuring out what works best for yours, finding the right toy can help in your exploration,” she says. Some, for instance, might prefer direct pressure, while others may prefer suction, Marla Renee Stewart, sex expert for sex toy shop Lovers and women’s studies instructor at Clayton State University, tells SELF. But if you haven’t taken the time to really get to know your clitoris, it’s worth the effort, since different ones respond to different kinds of touch.
We know this is old news to most people who have one, but the clitoris can be key for solo satisfaction: According to a 2017 survey of more than 1,000 women published in the Journal Sex and Marital Therapy, three quarters of people with vulvas say clitoral stimulation is either necessary for orgasm or enhances the experience. Get to know your clitoris (it bears repeating). Consider their advice your masturbation inspiration. But for those of you who are turned on by the idea of shaking up your masturbation routine, we asked 15 sex experts to share their hottest tips. There’s no wrong way to get yourself off, of course, and if you’re happy with your current moves (or lack thereof), you-uh-do you.
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